I have fallen pregnant unexpectedly and financially we can’t afford to raise another child


DEAR DEIDRE: I AM in such a fix. I am 40 and married but my husband and I are dismayed that I am unexpectedly pregnant.

Financially, things will be very tight if I go ahead. My husband is 42 and works away a lot. Our home is very cramped and our six-year-old daughter has seizures and severe learning difficulties.

We can’t afford to have another baby
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So far the doctors have been unable to find the right medication for her.

I feel so stressed. We also have a son of 15 months. The pregnancy is making me feel depressed and I feel guilty as I don’t think this is the right situation for another child.

My husband doesn’t think it is a good idea either, but I worry it is selfish of us to think about a termination.


SOCIAL anxiety affects one in seven of us and is often linked to childhood insecurities.

We can retrain ourselves to cope more confidently – explained in my leaflet on Social Anxiety. Email the address below for a copy, or private message me on my Facebook page.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is not at all selfish. Think how another baby would affect your children’s lives.

Talk more with your husband to be sure you are totally agreed on what is best on balance. Then get help immediately.

Talk to your GP or the British Pregnancy Advisory Service (bpas.org, 03457 304030).

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