DEAR DEIDRE: SEX can be boring with my big, beautiful girlfriend. Should I dump her for someone slimmer?
I’m 25 and she is 23 and gorgeous. Being a big girl is all part of the package for me. I love a chubby lady.
Our sex life is intimate and fun but due to her weight I always end up on top. I want more variety and am starting to feel bored.
As we near the end, I find myself thinking, “Here we go. Best get on top . . . ”
But if I end it with her, I’m bound to go for a shapely girl again. I couldn’t perform when things weren’t going well with my skinny ex but that’s never a problem with my current girlfriend, so maybe she is right for me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Perhaps she is but you will only be the right one for her if you can start to see girls as people, with personalities, and not just body shapes.
If sex is uncomfortable, experiment to find what works for you both. Focus on foreplay, caressing, kissing and stroking, only having intercourse when you both feel fully aroused.
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