DEAR DEIDRE: I LOOKED through my partner’s phone as she has been constantly talking about a guy she knows who is in the Army.
I found out that they had nearly become a couple. The messages said she has often thought what might have happened between them and he said similar stuff.
She added that you never know what the future holds.
I dropped a few hints, hoping she would come clean, but she didn’t.
I’m a guy of 27 and my partner is 26. She’s gorgeous and I know I’m punching above my weight. She gets loads of comments on social media when she posts selfies. She snoops on my social media and questions me a lot about stuff she has seen from my past but she hates it when I do it to her.
I love her and we have moved in together but I worry this isn’t the life she wants, even though she insists it is.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Tell her you need to be honest with one another about changes you’d like to make your relationship happier. My e-leaflet Your Relationship MOT can help.
Put your phones away at, say, 8pm and talk and flirt with one another.
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