DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE been having wild sex with my best friend’s mum. Now she’s pregnant I’m in a mega panic.
I’m 17, like my mate. We hang out together in school and play football for the same team at the weekends. His mum is 38 and divorced.
My mate sings with a band and is aiming to get on a TV talent show like X Factor. I’ve no musical talent but enjoy cooking and fancy getting on Bake Off.
One evening I was joking with my mate about it when his mum said she’d give me some cookery lessons because she used to work in a hotel kitchen.
I started going round there on Wednesday nights when my mate rehearses with his band and his mum would teach me how to bake something new.
One day a sponge layer cake I’d made worked out amazingly and she flung her arms around me in excitement. Before I thought about it, I looked down at her and kissed her.
I couldn’t believe I’d been so bold. I’ve never even been with a girl before but my mate’s mum is very pretty and sexy.
She pushed me away, looked into my eyes, and then pulled me towards her to kiss again. She said, “Why don’t I give you some different tutoring tonight?”
She led me to her bedroom and started undressing me, then told me to help her. I pulled her dress off and she looked incredible. We kissed and caressed, got into bed and she took my virginity.
I couldn’t stop thinking about her. We had sex on five different occasions after that. It wasn’t planned, it just happened.
She’s now told me she’s pregnant. I’m horrified. I don’t want to be a dad at my age but she seems set on having it. My parents will kill me and I will have to tell my mate I fathered his little brother or sister. It’s such a mess.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Your mate’s mum is an adult and should have been grown-up enough to have known better. But continuing with the pregnancy or not is her choice.
Tell her you are not mature enough to be a good dad and will struggle to help support a child financially (your legal duty) until you can find a full-time job. That may take years if you continue your education.
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Ask that you visit her doctor together for advice. My e-leaflet Unplanned Pregnancy can help you both talk this over and allow her to think carefully about her options.
If she decides to go ahead with the pregnancy, then she should tell her son and be beside you to tell your parents. In future, remember to be responsible for contraception.
Find understanding and confidential support through The Mix, who help under 25s by phone, email or live chat (themix.org.uk, 0808 808 4994).
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