DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter is having to live in a scruffy shared flat in London because her boyfriend has moved back in with his parents up north to start a computer business.
She can’t afford anything better alone. But his parents won’t even let her go to stay with him at their home at weekends.
She is 29. I feel so sorry for her but her dad and I live in Devon and can’t afford to help financially. The boyfriend is 34 and seems to have money. But neither he nor his parents are making any effort to help her.
I worry he is just stringing her along. She says I am not being supportive but I’m just trying to help her see things as they really are.
DEIDRE SAYS: Rather than offer advice or criticise her boyfriend and his parents, encourage your daughter to talk to you about her situation and how she feels about it.
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She will realise for herself if he isn’t giving her the commitment she deserves.
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