WAS yesterday fulfilling for you, or were you too wrapped up in old wives’ tales to enjoy a bit of sex-pression?
“If we want to make the best of our sex lives, we need to forget some of these old myths,” explains sex expert Alix Fox. These outdated ideas could be getting in the way of a saucy night.” Here, Alix tells LYNSEY HOPE what is fact and what is fiction.
Men think about sex every seven seconds
“THIS has been disproved by multiple studies,” Alix says. “In an Ohio State University study, 283 students were given clickers and told to press them every time a sexual thought entered their heads.
“The results showed that the average man thought about sex 19 times a day, for women it was ten.”
Even the most interested only recorded 388 clicks, which equates to once every two minutes during waking hours.
“Everyone involved may also have been thinking about nookie more than normal too, because they were conscious of being part of the experiment,” Alix says.
Why we have more sex in the spring
AS the weather gets warmer, do things heat up in the boudoir too? Alix says.
“From around 1778 to 1940 birth rates were highest in late winter, indicating more women fall pregnant in late spring, early summer.
“Yet from 1974 to 1982, there have been more August and September births, meaning most conceptions are in November and December.”
In an experiment, 114 men were asked to rate pics of women’s faces, breasts and bodies for attractiveness every three months. They lusted after boobs and bods more during winter. “
Theories on this seem to change with the season,” Alix admits.
Women don’t enjoy porn
“IT’S not true – many women watch it until they’re blue in the face,” Alix says.
“A survey of 3,000 women by Marie Claire magazine found that nearly a third viewed porn once a week, with another third watching a few times a month. Of these, 66 per cent were doing this alone, so entirely for their own titillation, not to please a partner.”
But more than half of them did admit to worrying about porn studios treating women badly, and that mainstream adult movies encouraged negative stereotypes.
“Female-friendly porn companies aim to solve this by making movies that focus on women’s pleasure and treating actresses with respect.”
Oysters are an aphrodisiac
THE concept that guzzling oysters has you hungry for sex has been believed since pre-Roman times, and lothario Casanova supposedly put them away by the plateful,” Alix says.
“Certain bivalve molluscs like oysters contain D-Aspartic acid, which has been found to boost sex hormones in rats, although a 2015 study only drew very weak conclusions about its ability to raise testosterone in men.”
Bivalve molluscs also contain zinc, which is crucial to the production of sperm and sex hormones. “But that’s not the same as food making you feel instantly erotic when eaten,” Alix adds.
“Any effect is likely to be a placebo – we feel saucier because we expect to. And if seafood isn’t to your taste, it may make your desire clam right up.”
DELIVERING sexual satisfaction is more about the skill of the stroke than the size of the bloke,” Alix explains.
“Men also need an enthusiastic attitude and a willingness to listen to what a woman truly wants.”
In a study of 170 women in the Netherlands, more than three quarters thought penis length and girth were unimportant.
“These results are backed up by a survey of more than 500,000 people carried out by Professor Kevan Wylie at the University of Sheffield,” Alix adds.
“He found that while 85 per cent of women were satisfied with the dimensions of their lover’s privates, 45 per cent of guys still worried about size. And bigger trainers do not necessarily mean a bigger trouser snake,” Alix says.
“In 1999, a Korean science team recorded the length of 655 penises, along with notes about the size of not only the men’s feet but also their ears, toes and mouths. No links were discovered within the data.”
Men are not naturally monogamous
“KINSEY’S research stoked this belief too, as have other publications largely written by men,” Alix says.
Yet author Wednesday Martin believes it has been beneficial for men to make out cheating is “natural” for guys, whereas historically, “loose women” have been shamed as a means of control.
Alix says: “Basic evolutionary theories suggest men desire to sleep with as many women as possible to procreate, while women seek committed partners to help raise children.
“But modern science suggests the truth is more complex and both sexes may be turned on by the thrill of new partners.”
Women hit sexual peak at 28, men at 18
THE idea of a sexual peak stemmed from research published by sexologist Alfred Kinsey in 1953.
Alix says: “He suggested male sex hormones reach their maximum around 18, while female oestrogen levels peak in the mid-to-late twenties.
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“The study also found men ejaculated most frequently when they were younger. Women took longer to discover what made them tick.”
But good sex is not purely about hormones and the Big O.
“The idea of a ‘peak’ is unhelpful – it suggests all sex that comes before or after this mythical moment is sub par. This simply isn’t true.”