Why do I still miss my abusive partner three months on from our split?


DEAR DEIDRE: I GOT home from work to find my partner had moved out.

Three months on, I still feel like I have hit a wall.

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I am 23 and he is 28. It wasn’t an easy relationship.

He hated me going out with friends or family, accusing me of having a better time than him, and even shrank my going-out clothes by putting them in a hot wash.

His own father was abusive – and he started turning into him. In the past year we had lots of fights.

He’d grab me and squeeze my throat.

There was drama if things weren’t all about him.

When I went back to my parents’ after a row we got a call from my GP saying someone had phoned expressing concern about my mental wellbeing.

I am angry with him but I miss him desperately.

He’s never called me and I feel my life is on hold.

DEIDRE SAYS: Life may feel flat for now without all the adrenalin-filled dramas but you are so much better off without him in your life.

When you have really recovered from it all, you will start to see you can finally put your own needs first and focus on your future.

Follow the Freedom Programme (freedomprogramme.co.uk) for help.

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