One woman has taken to Netmums to rant about her husband’s sibling after she put her bank details on their wedding invites.
The bride announced her wedding was going to be a weekend-long affair this summer and told guests to secure a place at the wedding by paying £180.
The woman was shocked to see the huge sum of money by the RSVP info so she couldn’t help but share the news online.
Writing on the parenting forum, the mum asked her fellow users whether the bride was being unreasonable.
“My husband and I were a little shocked to see that alongside RSVP info was bank details to pay £180”
She said: “Just after some opinions on the following. So my sister-in-law announced that her wedding (this summer) was going to be a weekend-long affair a couple of hours away from where we live.
“Invitations recently went out and my husband and I were a little shocked to see that alongside RSVP info was bank details to pay £180 to secure our place at the wedding.
“We will be staying over with our child on the venue grounds for two nights so I understand what this money will probably go towards but I just feel it’s a bit ‘off’ and bad etiquette.
“When we got married, immediate family stayed at the venue which we paid for. My MIL (mother-in-law) was shocked as she is footing a lot of the wedding bill and when SIL (sister-in-law) sounded her out in this, she asked SIL not to ask for money off immediate family in this way.
“We will pay as we wouldn’t want to miss it for the world but just wondered how others would feel about this?”
Unsurprisingly, the post caused quite a stir online with over 50 people reacting on the forum.
One wrote: “I think it’s rude yes. She should have at least mentioned to people first so that the bank info doesn’t come as a huge shock on the invite.”
Another said: “I have never heard anything like this before. As you have said your MIL has paid for the venue, so it sounds like the £180 is to go towards the other wedding expenses.
“Which I think is very unfair to expect from guests. Though if I was you, I would give SIL the £180 then only buy a small wedding gift as I would count the £180 as part of my gift to her.”
A third slammed: “I think it’s rude. Every wedding I’ve been invited to away I’ve been given a list of suggestions of places to stay to suit a variety of budgets.
“And what meals are these included for? Hopefully not the wedding reception which the bride/groom (or in this case MIL) should be paying for. I wouldn’t expect to receive an invitation with a bill attached for accommodation and meals.”
However, some users did sympathise with the bride and didn’t think it was wrong.
She wrote: “Sounds reasonable to me if it’s accommodation. We’re paying about £600 next month for 2 nights hotel/travel/parking for a friend’s wedding! It’s a lot of money to us, but I wouldn’t miss it for the world, they mean too much to us.”
While another added: “I honestly don’t think £180 is a lot for a wedding gift to a close family member. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions though.